It's Valentines Day and it's Monday!
Did you know Valentines Day is a day when the calls on the suicide hotline goes up drastically and Monday is the day with statistically the most suicides according to a quick google search. Not a good combination and I pray today is a day when people are feeling love for themselves, not self condemnation. The Hopi say that each culture sings songs about what they lack the most. "You people sing about love, we sing about water". Whether this is a true story or not it makes the point that romantic love isn't easy to come by rather like water in the desert. Self love may be even harder, where the hell would you find that?! Yet if you don't love your Self how is anybody else going to love you? If you are not being your Self and are caught up in pretending to be a particular way because you don't like yourself, then who would they be loving anyway? Your false sense of self? That's not you. As the song City Of Stars aptly puts; "It's Love, yes all we are really looking for is love from someone else" Yet anyone who has looked for this elusive love from somebody else knows how difficult it can be to find (water, desert) and if you do manage to find someone that is capable of loving you, how skilled are you at receiving love? You can't get love from someone else if you can't receive love. Damn! So where do we learn to receive love? From our parents? Maybe for 1% of us. Lucky you! For the rest of us we are left to fumble and fail our way through love, making the same mistakes, different mistakes, doing the same and different things, being the same and different ways and hoping this time it will be different. Really? Like love is a combination lock and we just got to find the right combination. The combination to a heart perhaps? Some of us get into a good negotiated love, I'll leave you alone to do what you like as long as you don't call me to account on my stuff and let's NEVER talk about how we feel, way too real! We have to have some good suppression of emotions to make this work. Maybe you found someone who is as good at it as you are. But as Kahlil once said you won't laugh all of your laughter or cry all of your tears. Monotone existence. I tried it for a while, it eventually becomes egg shell creeping. Looking for love versus finding love in ourselves is partly what our work is all about. If you are on the journey of deepening into Self-love, then you'll love the work we are presenting this year. Our Power and Love weekend Immersion and our Powerful, Real Relating Online Course are coming soon. Wishing you a beautiful Valentine's Day dear friends… May we all celebrate the sacred gift of love on this and every other day. Ian Nesbitt
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