Imagine what would be possible if you were free of the one and only thing that holds you back. Imagine if you had grown up being free of that experience of yourself that inhibits or stops you from moving forward. Imagine if you had that level of freedom and the amazing energy that comes with it from a young age till now.
Imagine for a moment what you would be doing, what would your unique contribution to the world be? Where would you be now? What type of relationships would you have? What would you achieve or accomplish?
What if you had access to that right now, no matter who you are or what your circumstances are? Your life would never be the same again. Life itself would never be the same again. This inner shift would dramatically alter your entire world and how it occurs for you.
As the poet David Whyte so beautiful expressed it:
“I have woken from the Sleep of Ages, and I am not sure if I am really seeing.... or dreaming........or simply astonished!!”
What becomes available when we shift into this deeper experience of ourselves is the opportunity to live a life that is powerful, free and deeply authentic. We begin to take actions which are more aligned with and honouring of, our truth and our unique gifts. This provides us with our greatest satisfaction and fulfilment. In my experience, it is the source of our true happiness.
I invite you to consider that we live in unprecedented times, we have vast information available to us and yet it could be said that more and more of us are losing ourselves or are being left behind by the relentless pursuit of economic growth. Now more than ever there is a requirement for us to step into a deeper level of authentic expression and live our truth, rather than the prepackaged truth we are programmed to live.
More and more people are asking themselves; how can I get out of this situation I find myself in? How can I pursue what I am really here to do, when I have to face my bills every month?
There is an answer and there is a way and that way is in you. It is you. It is who you really are.
THE ONE AND ONLY THING THAT STOPS US
However there is a great challenge that we all face, that stops us from expressing our true power. There is something in the way of our pure expression, something that has distracted our attention for a very long time and until we see what that is and how it works, how it keeps us occupied into limiting beliefs and feelings, we will never have the freedom to realize what we are truly capable of. We will always be left with the uneasy feeling and the belief that “something is missing”.
THE FREEDOM OF WHO YOU REALLY ARE
Realizing the true you is freedom..........That is what true freedom is.
The freedom to be free from this inner mechanism that stops you from seeing Who You Really Are, the freedom to express yourself in your full power and joy; This is your face before your parent’s birth as they say in Zen.
I have learnt from working with many people over the years; we can do therapy for years, we can meditate for years, we can do a vast array of personal development courses, body practices and spiritual training, we can have all manner of success and material wealth, and although these are important to us, until we come to this mechanism that influences our every choice and colours our world and what we see, we will never be free of the influence that this inner mechanism has on us and it will cause us to struggle and suffer.
TO HAVE POWER OVER THAT WHICH HAS POWER OVER YOU
I have worked for 10 years to create a way that presents people with the opportunity to finally be free of this debilitating aspect of ourselves. To finally have power over that which has power over you. This has been my calling. I have devoted my life to it. It’s what I am here to do; it’s my gift, so to speak.
I started by creating a 12 session process which I called The Realizing Process and later changed to Mastering Your Self. I took people individually through the journey of gaining back their power. This process produced some remarkable results, dramatically altering the direction of participants lives. In two cases, two separate clients went from deep depression and stagnation to travelling the world doing amazing work with remote communities.
Following these successes and many more, I then took the major aspects of the Realizing Process and with my partner and gifted Energy Healer Tracy we added our different qualities and processes and created an 8 week group journey which we called ‘Being The One’. This 8 week deep dive into our shadow received high acclaim from the participants as they had significant shifts for themselves and their lives.
This success inspired us to create a weekend intensive which allows people to have this deep and profound experience of themselves over the course of a weekend. That way we will be able to travel with the course and bring it to other cities. My mission is to bring this ‘Realisation’, to as many people as possible.
It is very exciting times that we are living in as the world goes through a profound evolution. It calls us to question and reassess everything, including who we think we are. My goal is to accelerate that evolutionary process so that we can transform this beautiful world for the betterment of all.
If this article resonates for you then I invite you to come and join us on this exhilarating journey of discovery of uncovering the constantly unfolding mystery of Who You Really Are. It is an exciting and profound journey that allows you to break free of the source of your limitations and what stops you.
As appears in the September Edition of Living Now magazine
I was re-watching Matrix Reloaded the other day, the second ‘difficult’movie in the trilogy, and for the first time I realised I disagreed with one of the many brilliant quotes in that movie. The quote was “Hope. It is the quintessential human delusion, simultaneously the source of your greatest strength, and your greatest weakness.”
I disagreed because in my experience for myself and in working with many others in the area of transformational change, I feel pain is the source of our greatest strength and our greatest weakness.
‘Know thy Self’ was written on the forecourt of the Temple of Apollo at Delphi. It beautifully sums up the challenge of life and the journey we all go on to arrive at a deeper understanding of ourselves and how we operate and what it means to be a human being, rather than a dog being or a bird being.
Yet within our current paradigm, and when I mean current I mean at least the last 100 years, the mantra would probably be closer to “whatever you do, don’t know your Self”. Don’t listen to yourself, doubt that inner guidance and, whatever you do, don’t follow it because, if you do, you will be looked upon by others as crazy. No, it is much better to let us, the authorities, the institutions, the corporations and their public relations and marketers, tell you what is okay to think, what you should do, how you should be and what you should believe.
Is it so surprising that many of us have no idea or very little skill in how to connect to our inner wisdom, our inner guidance? Even if we do, there is often shame or guilt or embarrassment around it.
One of the great embarrassments of following our guidance is the often absence of a ‘why’. Our need for meaning and whys for everything is often not fulfilled till after we follow our guidance, and very rarely before.
Sometimes it can take years to understand the why.
‘Why did you stay in that relationship for so long?’
‘Why did you come back to Australia?’
This is where the beauty of pain kicks in.
If we look closely we notice that when we don’t have an answer that is authentic for us, we have a jolt of pain. That shame or guilt or embarrassment covers up a deeper feeling of pain, the pain of not knowing or understanding why. Often in those situations we may fob people off with a made up ‘fob-off why’. But we forget that those close to us most likely can spot an authentic why from a fob-off why, even if that fob-off why sounds well thought out and makes sense; and those that care about us, and are willing to challenge us, will let us know. ‘Your why... smells a bit fishy. I’d dig a little deeper if I were you.’
So how do we know we have found the authentic why and not just some ‘makes sense why’ created by our logical mind?
As a Transformational Coach I know that if the person I am working with has a really good, well thought out, rational and reasonable reason for why something is so, and it makes sense, then a little alarm bell goes off in me and I know, more often than not, that they are avoiding their feelings, they are avoiding the pain. I see this is often what we do to justify our actions and avoid the pain that is there to face.
Why do we avoid facing our pain?
I would say because we have been taught to trade short, intense pain for mild, long-lasting suffering and somehow we believe that that’s a good trade off! We are conditioned to believe that pain is a sign that there is something wrong with us, in a negative sense. In other words it is a source of weakness, an embarrassment, self-indulgent or shameful. This avoidance of accepting the pain we have experienced in life and feeling the pain that is there to feel is at the core of our deep insecurities and is deeply debilitating. It is my experience and belief that when we reject and avoid our pain, we miss out on learning from one of our most valuable teachers in life. We miss the lesson of pain.
Pain is an amazing teacher that always delivers exactly what we need. Pain cracks us open to a new level of authenticity and eventually brings us to that line between living an inauthentic conditioned life and living a fully authentic unconditioned life, following our calling, sharing our unique gift and genius with the world.
Life – our higher self, that higher intelligence – can often be ruthless in its determination to bring us to that line, often kicking and screaming, trying to hold together the crumbling of our existing structures. Yet, when we let go, when we surrender to the unfolding discovery of the mystery of who we really are rather than cling desperately to the remains of who we think we are, we step into a new reality, a new realm of being, a new uncharted terrain in our journey. From this unfolding discovery we understand that pain plays a role in our growth and refinement. It teaches us a deeper acceptance of our limited sense of self and allows us the opportunity to expand beyond who we think we are.
I write this article because I strongly believe that this dynamic of trying to hold together the remnant of who we think we are and the increasing pain that desperation creates is what more and more of us are experiencing in our lives. The journey to deeper authenticity can occur like walking through a furnace and having the excesses we have accumulated over time burned away, revealing a raw, vulnerable present human being. As my friend loved to say, “There’s light at the end of the funnel! Because sometimes this journey feels like you’re being sucked backwards through one.”
When we transform our relationship to pain and we begin to acknowledge and own the pain we have experienced in life and the lessons we have learnt, we tap into a strength, a resilience, a deep spiritual power that is a beautiful gift to ourselves and the world we serve.
Pain is not something we need to seek because it will always be provided when a lesson needs to be learnt, when a deeper level of authenticity is required of us, and that lesson is always perfect in its timing and in its delivery. That’s the beauty of pain.
Ian runs ‘Being the One’ Transformational Courses in Melbourne with his partner, Tracy Marcuzzi.
Elizabeth Jewell Stephens will interview them at afternoon tea on Sunday, 27th September, in Melbourne.